Posted: August 13, 2020 in: Personal Empowerment, Pain-2-Power

Humpty Dumpty and You

As kids we read lots of fairy tales and stories.  One is about Humpty Dumpty.  Humpty falls and cannot be put back together again.


Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall;

All the king’s horses and all the king’s men

Couldn’t put Humpty together again.


That’s a pretty negative message when you think about it.  Fall from a height, and you might just find yourSELF in too many pieces to ever be yourSELF again.

Well, I’m here to tell you that isn’t true.  In fact, the opposite is.  Not only can people be restored after they fall from heights, but they are often stronger in the broken places.  The pieces go back together in a way that takes account of why the fall happened in the first place and incorporates new reservoirs of strength, courage and faith only found after the fall.

We all break in life, in one way or another, by the way.  We suffer setbacks.  We make regrettable decisions.  We lose people we love and we grieve the losses.  We trust people we later learn we should not have trusted.  Extreme financial ups and downs are common.  Illnesses can change our lives or the lives of those we love without notice.  The question is whether we will emerge stronger, having suffered but grown—in wisdom, in our resolve, in our love for ourselves and others, in our faith in God (or the Universe, if you prefer).  And the answer to that question can always, always be yes.

It may not always feel that way.  Often, it feels impossible to put the pieces back together, again, let alone in a better way.  That’s when it becomes essential to remind yourself that events in your life are not random.  A Higher Power has a hand in the writing of your life story.  If you can summon the faith to believe that, then you can also find the faith to believe that every event that unfolds in your story—every single event—is  meant to strengthen you or those you dearly love.  And then you can go looking for the way in which falling is not your end, but another beginning.

Oscar Wilde was right when he said, “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.”

I have talked to thousands of people who have faced adversity of every imaginable kind.  I can tell you this, definitively:  You are not Humpty Dumpty.  None of us is.  You are on a journey toward the light, even when you find yourself in darkness.  You are on a journey toward wholeness, even when you feel shattered into pieces.

Dr. Keith Ablow


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