Posted: October 20, 2020 in: Pain-2-Power, Personal Empowerment

Is “Why?” the Most Powerful Question of All?

It is a bit of a cliché that kids tend to ask Why? again and again when they are told that they won’t be getting a second ice cream or can’t stay up later to watch more television.  After three or four Why? questions, the most dismissive and maybe the most common reply from parents is, “Because I said so.”

It’s true that a child’s repeated Why? questions could go on and on and on, but it would be a real loss if that means we shy away from Why? questions as adults.  Because those are the diving rod questions that lead inexorably to the core answers we need to so many dilemmas.

  • Why is this venture not meeting with success?
  • Why are those I seek to inspire instead saying they feel dispirited?
  • Why do I seem to make the same choices, again and again, even when I learn again and again that they cause me pain?

Why? questions don’t have to only be about roadblocks or shortcomings.  Here are some worthy ones about very different situations:

  • Why did the room seem to light up when I barely mentioned that project?
  • Why do I seem to feel so motivated when working on this venture, when it is by no means the biggest or most profitable one?
  • Why would I feel like I have to pursue a career that isn’t really in my heart of hearts to pursue?

See, Why? questions are actually gifts.  They urge us toward insight.  Follow one why question after another and you may just find your way “home” to the thoughts and feelings and plans that make the most sense for you or your family or your company or your country.

Because! may have been an easy answer to your Why’s when you were a kid, but reclaiming the right to ask them in earnest now is a way to find your power.

Dr. Keith Ablow


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