Posted: November 3, 2020 in: Pain-2-Power, Personal Empowerment

Anxious About ‘After-the-Election?’ Here’s How to Find Equilibrium.

The country is polarized.  Republicans are more, well, “Republicans” than ever, and Democrats are more “Democrats” than ever.  Whether social media is partly to blame or not (and I think it is), the country has become more polarized than ever.  It can feel as though the country won’t be “yours,” if the President isn’t from your party.  That can bring a lot of anxiety with it, because no one likes feeling like the country is changing into something that doesn’t represent their values.

Half the country is going to feel that way tomorrow.  Here’s the antidote:  Let yourself feel the anxiety for a little while.  The next chapter of the story of our nation is being written.  Worrying some over being an American in an America under the leadership of a party you don’t much like is normal.  But, after a day or two, try to take the anxiety and turn it into resolve.  Double down.  Start working harder than ever for the changes YOU want to see in this nation.

I know that sounds easy.  I know you might feel the temptation to hunker down, instead of doubling down.  I know you may have seen those celebrities who have no fight in them (and don’t take their role as role models seriously) talk about leaving the country if one or another man is elected President.  But I promise you that doubling down makes feeling anxious a lot harder.  It’s the difference between running away and turning to fight.  Running is all about fear.  Turning to fight is all about commitment and courage.

Whatever your politics may be, do not wait long to embrace commitment and courage.  Join a group—or yet another group—dedicated to advancing YOUR ideas and ideals.  Send a donation to the party you support (yup, after the election), a political action committee that speaks for what you believe in or a Congressional, Senate or Presidential candidate who needs to retire his debt.  Buy a tee shirt or sweatshirt or bumper sticker that reflects something in the world you care deeply about.

Action is the antidote for anxiety—at least anxiety of the kind that elections can cause.  And action is linked to faith.  They feed off one another.  If you truly believe in Republican values, act to see them take root.  If you truly believe in Democrat values, act to see those take root.

The point is that YOU are not defeated, even if your candidate is.  And neither candidate is, really, either, if he keeps on keeping on, doubling down in the face of adversity, recommitting to those beliefs he holds close.

I leave you with this quote.  It’s better than Xanax:

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.  – President Calvin Coolidge

Dr. Keith Ablow


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