Posted: December 4, 2020 in: Faith, Pain-2-Power

Pain-2-Power and Spirituality

Pain-2-Power is rooted in time-honored theories that honor personal insight and life story reasoning.  But it is also the case that it draws its power from spiritual truths that can change the way people see themselves, their relationships and the world around them.

First, Pain-2-Power helps people embrace their own pain and grow from it.  This goal is, of course, consistent with the spiritual notion that our suffering is not without value.  When properly examined, that suffering purifies, strengthens and makes one less likely to inadvertently do emotional harm to others.  It also makes an individual useful to those struggling with their emotions because he or she is no longer running away from emotion.

Since an unexamined life means that one’s own toxic interpersonal dynamics will be projected into the lives of others, Pain-2-Power is also built on the notion that embracing one’s truth is one’s personal responsibility.  For if we fail to do so, we break “faith” with our friends, our spouses (or romantic partners) and our children.

Second, Pain-2-Power not only advises people to stop running from the pain of the past (to alcohol or food or an addiction to material possessions or tumultuous relationships), but helps people forgive those who contributed to the pain they experienced in childhood or are experiencing today.  Central to the Pain-2-Power philosophy is that personal growth ultimately requires empathy, even for those who have done us harm.

Third, Pain-2-Power echoes the spiritual notion that none of us is a perfect being.  Our life stories are complicated by the shortcomings of others and by our own.  We are all struggling with some aspect of our existences.  By acknowledging this, Pain-2-Power is meant to kindle love for oneself and others.

Fourth, there is no one turned away at the door of Pain-2-Power.  There is no one for whom personal growth and insight is impossible.  And this might be translated spiritually as the fact that none of us is beyond redemption.

Finally, so many of those who participate in Pain-2-Power know that maintaining fictions about one’s life history or feelings or intentions is indeed spiritually debilitating.   There is a corollary in every major religion and spiritual set of principles that reflects this one (paraphrased from John 8:32).  “The truth will set you free.”

Dr. Keith Ablow


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