Posted: July 18, 2019 in: Personal Empowerment

Starting a New Chapter of Your Life Story

Getting a start-up off the ground is something I know about. I launched a medical company and a charity fundraising company, amongst others. And I’ve noticed that the process has a lot in common with launching the next phase of your life.

I think “starting up” is a three step process.

• Coming up with a compelling idea
• Identifying psychological hurdles in your way
• Taking a first, concrete step


The Idea

First, you have to have a compelling idea—compelling to you. That’s the vision piece. What do you want to change about your life or manifest in your life? That certainly involves introspection, and it should involve consultation with a trusted advisor or advisors. That’s the work I love to do.

The vision can be taking your current work to the next level, deepening a personal relationship in your life, freeing yourself from a complicated and painful relationship, embarking on a new path of education, mastering a new skill, pivoting to a different profession, enhancing your spiritual foundation or any number of other changes.


The Hurdles

The next step is examining psychological hurdles that are preventing you from getting started, or from getting started in the most powerful way possible. That’s pretty hard to do alone and has become part of my calling. Those hurdles may be emotional ones related to self-doubt or to the way you think about risk and reward. A good life coach or counselor (or, sometimes, a really insightful friend) can help you clear them, with ease.


A Concrete Step

The third step is . . . taking a first concrete step. I can’t emphasize this enough. If you want to write a book, it can be as simple as registering for the best online workshop on the topic. That’s what did it for me and got me started on my six published mystery novels. If you want to write a screenplay, it can be committing to attend the right seminar. If you want to run for office, it can be committing to one hour of consulting with a political consultant. Have you thought about starting a company (or your next one)? Maybe it’s time to ask three of your most trusted friends to listen to the idea. Just taking that first step makes it real. Yet, lots of people need some encouragement to take that first one.


Paul Coehlo wrote, “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Sometimes, all the universe needs is concrete evidence that you’re ready, that you’re serious and that you’re going forward, to the next chapter of your life story.

Dr. Keith Ablow


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2 responses to “Starting a New Chapter of Your Life Story”

  1. Keith Ablow says:

    Allen: I applaud your intention to journey forward. You sound like you have a methodical plan to move in the direction of your dream. If I can be of help, please let me know.

    All good,


  2. Allen Hilderbrand says:

    I appreciate your comments and encouragement. I am about a year out from starting my own adventure in the private sector. I know the intinstic hurdles just have to be patient and wait till it’s time. I started this Linkin page to keep others informed of my progress. What do you think?