Depersonalization is a psychiatric term that means having the sense that you are observing yourself from outside your body or that things around you are not real. It is essentially the feeling of being a detached observer of oneself, and it is extremely painful. People need to feel firmly rooted to a core identity, in […]
Nothing is wasted in this life, unless we forget that we have the ability to turn pain into power. That means that every page and chapter and theme of your life story that you found challenging or painful or traumatic or trying is just waiting for you to give others the gift of the insights […]
Every one of us has a story. The roots of each of our stories reaches deeper than we can remember and has chapters in previous generations. Some of the “backstory” that set the stage for your journey, challenges and gifts involves psychological dynamics that unfolded many years ago, setting the stage for the kind of […]
People talk about reinventing themselves, as though adopting a new focus for work or a new outlook after a painful divorce or even a new “look” is enough to change the trajectory of their existences. Certainly, I applaud those who hit rough patches or hurdles and don’t give up, instead summoning new interests and perspectives […]
Every Pain-2-Power person has, or is intent on developing, the strength to stand on his or her own two feet. After all, if you can endure pain, learn to take lessons from it and even see the opportunity in every kind of challenge, you don’t need to lean on anyone. That’s different, though, from relying […]
Everyone plans. We envision the future. Most of us would agree that envisioning it, in fact, is part of making it happen. That may sound like New Age thinking, but it really isn’t. No company takes shape without it first being an idea in someone’s mind. No career is embarked upon without first deciding to […]
When someone is criticized as being “into himself” or “into herself” that’s usually a way of accusing that person of being narcissistic and lacking concern for others. While that might be true in the cliché usage of the words, I think there’s a better way to frame them—especially when yourself is written as yourSELF—the way […]
The Pain-2-Power Jury Stays Out A Long Time Are you living through adversity right now? Maybe you find yourself facing a business reversal or struggling through a divorce or being treated for an illness. Maybe your reputation has taken a hit or a treasured friend has let you down or abandoned you. I want you […]
Many of us have negative habits that range from snacking too much to drinking, smoking or gambling too much. We can feel as though we are hostages to those behaviors because they have so many ways of getting their way. Habits argue that we’ll feel better after indulging or that we’ll make changes “tomorrow,” or […]
Have you ever looked at the chart of the way a really great stock fluctuates in price? Almost invariably, when real power is behind the company, the stock rises in a sawtooth pattern—rising, then falling back, then rising higher than the last high, then falling back, then rising still higher than the second high – […]